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You’re Living The Life you’re producing.

I heard this said the other day and I thought WOW! that’s spot on! Too often, we fail to take responsibility of OUR ACTIONS, OUR THOUGHTS and OUR HABITS when, they are what’s instrumental in the creation of the life that we are now living. Let’s get into it because ultimately mom babes – you, me, should realise if not already that this ‘life’ – it’s our choice, always have been.

There will often be things or situations that is out of our control. But, that’s life though isn’t it, how best we handle plan B? and are we not the ones who ultimately decides how to respond to those uncontrollable situations? I believe, life isn’t about what happens to you, it’s about how we react in adversity.

Live The Life

I am looking to live an authentic life. Which means, I have had to learn to make choices on a daily basis. To me , living authentic means living a life that is true to me and true to who I want to be, NOT by someone else’s expectation of it. If you too are tired of being or feeling stuck on the proverbial “hamster wheel” of life… ever so desperately, wanting to start to live life to the ‘fullest’. Without a doubt then, I encourage you to be brave and bold with the choices you make henceforth.

Firstly, recognize when you’re blaming your circumstances or other people. We often give away our power when we blame it on others, things or situations – think about it. Don’t we ALLOW a situation to occur? So here is where it ends, we got to stop playing the blame game. Yes! you – me – we got to stop blaming. Instead of that choose to accept the situation – take some time to review it, learn the lesson, let go of any attachments and move forward.

Because, as hard as it is to see everything as your “fault”. That, ultimately is what gives you (and I) the control and the power to make a change – unquestionably AT ANY TIME!

It’s Your Choice

We can always improve upon our current situation, and it’s that simple. For instance , you can improve yourself and your life by focusing on things that are good for you, including challenging negative self-talk, practicing self-respect, managing stress and resolving conflict in your relationships. You have the power to change your situation and that is by taking ownership. Assess it, learn from it and find that way forward. You will, I know you will. Living an authentic life takes time. It’s unlikely that you will be able to go from 0-100 in 24 hours (well I didn’t – but of course If you could, wow! that’s awesome) , so find a place to start. For example, why not explore your love of writing by journaling for five minutes each day? There is much satisfaction from small changes that ultimately honor the real you.

Furthermore, it’s high time to embrace a new perspective and give yourself the ability to change your own life! be you do you for you. Mom babes please do not make the CHOICE to stay stuck in a situation that you don’t like. I know this can be hard to hear, but I also think it is the ultimate empowerment.

It’s Your Choice, always have and always will.

Trust that those ‘happy’ friends and family of yours who you often see smile in public, that they too have been through every bit as much as the ones who cry, frown, and scream. They just simply found the courage and strength to smile through it and enjoy life in the best way possible.

Decide What’s Important

Whether it’s taking care of your children, working hard on your career. Perhaps even writing a new blog post each day, or baking up fabulous creations. You get to decide how you enjoy spending your time. Your parents, friends, community, and society in general – OMG they will all have their opinions about it. But hey! at the end of the day, you’re the only person who will be around for every moment of your life. So I encourage you to do what makes you happy.

Risky? Yes! Do It.

My father once told me, If you never take risks, you’ll never get anywhere in life. And, if I may add you certainly won’t learn how to live life to the fullest. We want to start ‘living the life’. But, guess what?! staying in your comfort zone is the fastest way to become discontent. While it may feel uncomfortable at first, taking a risk can be as simple as saying yes the next time your friends invite you out. (no, don’t stay home alone this time). It can also mean going out for a walk in the park instead of the treadmill. Or, buying a plane ticket to a new city. So, mom babes find something new to try today and set goals beyond what you currently believe is possible.

I invite you to consider these 7 points below to work towards living your life to the fullest. And to enjoy them each and every day from this day forward.

1. Show Your Love

Family and friends will always appreciate hearing that you love and appreciate them in everyday life. It will brighten a stranger’s day to hear a random compliment. If you like someone’s t-shirt, tell them. Perhaps you notice a mom doing a great job, not losing her temper while her kid screams in the supermarket. Let her know. Even better if you have a romantic interest in someone – I say just go for it. There are a lot of ways it may end, for sure. And, only one of them keeps them in your life forever. Just don’t go living your life not ever knowing.

2. Live in the Present Moment

Your past is important to learn from. Your future is important to work towards. At the end of the day, though, the only thing that exists outside of your head is the present. And to ground yourself in the now and to start your journey to living the life, you can practice mindfulness. Which, involves learning to live in the moment – how ? well , by noticing what’s around you, how you’re feeling, why you’re feeling that way, etc. Meditation and journaling can also help with this as it helps you get in touch with your thoughts and feelings. Gratitude is another amazing tool for living in the present. Each day, practice gratitude by writing down three to five things you’re grateful for. You’ll be amazed on how quickly this helps place you in the moment. And you start to live life to the fullest. 

3. Ignore the Haters

No matter what you decide to do with your life, there will always be that someone around to point out the many ways you’ll fail. Or point out to you what you’re doing wrong on each step that you take. Successful people don’t start out successful. What makes them successful is that they keep pushing through failure.

The next time you run into a hater, work on placing boundaries and practice self-love to build your self confidence and make it impenetrable to the outside forces that is trying to break it down. 

4. Don’t Compromise Your Values

If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Don’t compromise on your ethics, as this will leave you feeling empty and full of regret. Life doesn’t work like a movie. It’s filled with gray areas therefore absolutely trust your instincts. In short, do whatever you want so long as you can look yourself in the mirror with appreciation and love. 

5. Be Kind to Others

Every day, you’ll see someone who could use help. If you are not be able to help them financially, offering them a smile or a kind word always does wonders. It can help someone feel better about where they’re at in life. And, when others see you practicing kindness, they’ll also be more likely to do so. Which, can help everyone learn how to live life to the fullest. 

6. Keep An Open Mind

Having an open mind is important for your growth. Just because you’re right about something doesn’t mean there aren’t other ways to look at it.

Listening to ideas you don’t agree with or understand keeps your brain active and healthy. You’ll continue to learn as long as you stay open to difficult conversations. Don’t assume you know everything about another person, as they always have more to teach you. 

7. Take Action for What Matters to You

You’ll hear people say, “I had that idea too,” every single time you see someone create something great. Remember this, if you dont remember anything else in this post, remember this -> Ideas are useless if you don’t act on them.

Less thinking, more doing. To help you start that process into getting a great mindset, may I suggest you read this books below.

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To Consider..

Learning to live life to the fullest. That is a big step. You are discovering a path that will lead you to your greatest sense of happiness and accomplishment. We all need moments to rest and relish in a sense of contentment. But staying in one place too long will leave you feeling a lack in life. Discover what makes your life feel meaningful and go after it. 

The meaning of your life is something you create day after day with your own actions and thoughts. Always ask what you can learn, and how you can move forward, and stop yourself from blaming other people if things aren’t the way you would like them to be.

What living life to the “fullest” looks like is up to you.

Disclaimer : Posts in this site is for the sole purpose of being informative and is not to be considered complete, and does not cover all issues related to mental health. It is not an attempt to advice concerning the topic of Mental Health.